Triple Negative and BRCA1+

Mid-February of this year, I was doing laundry when I first felt the lump. I had a pain in my right breast, which prompted me to feel the area. It felt like a jelly bean. I thought it was odd - but didn't think much of it. 32, with 2 children, it can't possibly be cancer. For about a week I stewed over my next steps – is going to the doctor really necessary? I decided to get my husband’s advice, maybe he won’t even feel it and it will be proof I don’t need to do anything. Needless to say the next day I was making an appointment. Friday March 13th, I was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer. A month later I also learned that I am BRCA1 positive. To date, I have undergone 4 treatments of Cytoxan and Adriamycin and 8 of 12 Taxol treatments. After chemo is finished I will be having a double mastectomy and reconstruction surgery as well as a full hysterectomy (due to the BRCA gene). Every new day is a day closer to winner the battle. The last 5 months have been the longest months of my life. However, though long, I can’t say they have been bad months – just not easy months. I have had the pleasure of meeting some amazing people that I will forever treasure and do cool things that I would have never done– like wear Henna proudly on my bald head. I said it when I was first diagnosed and continue to live by it, with the astounding support of my family and friends - This cancer will not define me, I will be the one defining it!! You want to define me, I will be the one defining you. You want to knock me down, I will get back up. You want to make me weak, I will only become stronger. You want to destroy me, I will destroy you. You are not my friend, you are not who I am, I will come out on top and you will come to an end.
Nicole Frisby
Lake Stevens, WA